IBM Employees: Avoid These Costly Financial Mistakes During Divorce

“IBM employees facing divorce can help safeguard their financial future by prioritizing asset transparency, maintaining sufficient liquidity, and rigorously forecasting post-divorce expenses” – Michael Corgiat, a representative of The Retirement Group, a division of Wealth Enhancement.

“IBM employees navigating divorce proceedings should engage professional financial guidance early, maintain clear records of all assets, and implement a realistic budget to foster post-divorce stability” – Brent Wolf, a representative of The Retirement Group, a division of Wealth Enhancement.

In this article we will discuss:

1. Common costly mistakes IBM employees make during divorce

2. Strategies for maintaining asset transparency and liquidity

3. How to forecast and manage post-divorce expenses

Even though financial issues are frequently discussed during divorce, many IBM employees make the same expensive mistakes, which can have long-term, irreparable effects. According to Patrick Ray, Senior Vice President and Financial Advisor at Wealth Enhancement, “advance planning can help people going through divorce mitigate costly mistakes.” Divorce can cause long-term financial harm to both men and women, but women are more at risk when assets and income sources are separated because they typically make less money. ¹

1. Excessive Expenditure on Celebrations and Lifestyle

It is all too typical for one or both ex-spouses to justify extravagant expenditures with a divorce settlement. These impulse purchases—such as buying a new, unaffordable car or going on lavish vacations—can quickly drain settlement funds. The desire to become a homeowner too soon may also be harmful. According to Ray, “it’s very tempting to start over right away, but that may result in buying too quickly, overpaying, or taking on too much debt.” Emotional turmoil often impairs judgment, leading to interest-only mortgages or high down payments that can strain one’s finances.

2. Inability to Locate and Retrieve Hidden Assets

Transparency in finances is essential to reaching a fair settlement. However, some spouses employ pre-divorce strategies to gain an advantage, such as moving money to family members or hiding assets in corporate entities. “Moving assets into businesses or transferring money to friends or family to conceal their value is one of the oldest tricks in the book,” Ray notes. Such tactics are frequently discovered only after completion, when it may be too costly or difficult to recoup hidden monies. It is crucial to hire a forensic accountant or investigator as soon as possible to protect your interests.

3. Letting Emotions Drag Out the Procedure

Attorney fees for protracted litigation fueled by emotional disagreements—over property or custody—can add up fast. “I’ve seen families spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on legal bills just because their feelings took precedence over sound financial judgment,” Ray adds. In addition to depleting the settlement fund, a drawn-out legal struggle makes it more difficult to restart financially. Rather than playing out this turmoil in the courts, Ray suggests seeking help from friends, family, or mental health professionals if emotional support is required to gain greater clarity or perspective.

4. Mishandling Illiquid Assets of the Marriage

Real estate, retirement savings, private equity interests, and restricted stock are examples of assets that need to be handled carefully. Recipients can later find that they are unable to access or sell these holdings without paying large fines or realizing unexpected losses. “Liquidity is critical. In some cases, it makes more sense to exchange illiquid assets for ones you can access and manage immediately,” Ray says. Structured payout provisions—such as regular cash distributions based on asset performance—can help preserve value and ease the transition.

5. Not Accounting for Post-Divorce Costs

It takes more than just cutting costs to transition from a dual-income to a single-income household; it also requires accurate forecasting. The cost of necessities like energy, housing, health insurance premiums, and child-related expenses mostly stays the same or even rises. “Expenses for housing, utilities, health insurance, and raising children don’t simply disappear,” Ray warns. To prevent cash flow problems, he emphasizes creating a thorough budget, conducting monthly expense reviews, and scrutinizing discretionary spending such as entertainment, dining out, and subscriptions.

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Key Data Point:

After a divorce or separation, women over 60 experience a 41% reduction in household income—nearly twice as much as men’s 23%percent drop—according to a Georgetown University Center for Retirement Initiatives analysis released May 19, 2023 (https://cri.georgetown.edu/the-unique-and-varied-challenges-women-face-planning-and-preparing-for-retirement/).

Conclusion

People can navigate divorce with greater financial resilience by recognizing and steering clear of these five pitfalls: overspending, hidden assets, emotional prolonging, illiquid holdings, and underestimated living expenses. In addition to safeguarding settlement funds, early professional guidance, careful budgeting, and strategic negotiating can help pave the way toward a more stable financial future for IBM team members.

Analogy:

Divorce finances are like navigating a ship through stormy seas: overspending on celebratory luxuries is like being tossed by sudden high waves; hidden assets are submerged reefs waiting to breach your hull; emotional disputes pull you into eddies that stall your progress; illiquid holdings are barnacles slowing your ship’s speed; and underestimating ongoing living expenses is like miscalculating provisions for the voyage. Without clear-eyed budgeting, asset transparency, and strategic course corrections, every misstep could capsize your financial journey.

Sources:

1. Pew Research Center. ' Gender pay gap in U.S. has narrowed slightly over 2 decades ,' by Richard Fry and Caroline Aragao. 4 Mar. 2025. 

Other Resources:

1. Locus, Heather. “Five Key Areas Where Divorcing Individuals Make Mistakes.” Forbes, 18 July 2023,  https://www.forbes.com/sites/heatherlocus/2023/07/18/five-key-areas-where-divorcing-individuals-make-mistakes/ .

2. Pinto, Aviva. “Financial Pitfalls To Avoid During And After Divorce.” Forbes Councils, 11 Mar. 2025,  https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbesfinancecouncil/2025/03/11/financial-pitfalls-to-avoid-during-and-after-divorce/ .

3. Money and Divorce: 6 Financial Mistakes to Avoid. Morgan Stanley, 28 Mar. 2025,  https://www.morganstanley.com/articles/divorce-financial-planning-guide .

4. “Older Couples Planning a Divorce Have More Assets to Divide.” AARP, 19 May 2023,  https://www.aarp.org/money/personal-finance/financial-impact-of-divorce/ .

5. Gustke, Constance. “Retirement Plans Thrown Into Disarray by a Divorce.” The New York Times, 27 June 2014,  https://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/27/your-money/retirement-plans-thrown-into-disarray-by-a-divorce.html .